Nurture your child's natural drive for independence.

We all love it when children discover their “I can do it!” moments. The Independent Child provides

practical resources and guides for parents on cultivating independence, self-esteem and confidence in children.


Ferne van Zyl is a Montessori educator who has over 30 years experience with babies and toddlers. Focusing on the fundamental principles of childhood development she shares a relational approach to bringing more peace, joy and order into families homes. Here you can pick up some practical tips from her blog, get information on upcoming parent workshops or book an individual consultation.


Let's talk...

One-on-one support and planning to discuss any current challenges you are facing.

You may have a baby that's not sleeping, a strong willed toddler that won't listen or children clashing at home. Sometimes it's just hard to get out the door! Managing multiple routines can be stressful at times. Do you need encouragement without judgment? How about a toolkit of easy to implement strategies to draw upon in times of difficulty?  I can help!

Work with me to map out the unique goals and values you have for your parenting journey and discover the “Relationship Focused“ approach to bring that vision to life in everyday interactions with your children.


Get equipped with tools that tackle your toughest challenges. We work together to garner effective, evidence-based strategies that you can start using right away to set up a home environment and framework for independence, positive communication and practical ways for dealing with challenging behaviour. Bring more peace, joy and order to your family life with guidance in:


  • Establishing routines.

  • Setting up environments for independence.

  • “How to Talk so Kids will Listen.” 

  • “Siblings without Rivalry.”

  • Toileting Independence - Become a “PooPoo Guru”.

  • Effective communication skills.

  • Dealing with strong emotions.

  • Home life transitions.

Brittany Darling

"I was completely stuck. Then I found Ferne. Within the first day she had my son sitting on the potty and cleaning up after himself. The second day she had him sitting on the toilet. A week on he went completely on his own after breakfast! We are completely over the moon and so proud of our little boy. Ferne taught me how to communicate with my toddler and has restored peace in our home! We cannot thank her enough."

Helen & Eric

"Parenting can be the toughest job in the World - Ferne taught us the tools that you should have been given when your child was born, to make the journey more enjoyable and give you the confidence in what you are doing as a parent" 

Kate Bright

"Ferne has provided us with practical parenting skills to help us to create a more harmonious and positive home environment. As well as sharing her wisdom, Ferne has also become a valuable friend of our family with her warmth, compassion and sense of humour and has always been available to chat when needed. We would highly recommend her skills and experience for any family." 


Get practical tips on nurturing your child's natural drive for independence with guides, inspiration and early bird access to upcoming parent workshops!